so who do you trust ...

Category: Let's talk

Post 1 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 9:14:19

today a woman was jailed for life for murdering a neighbours two year old son. The little boy had been staying over while his mother went out for the evening. Apparently, his head had been hit against a bannister and he died of head injuries which were similar to those which would have been sustained had he been thrown out of a car moving at 60 miles per hour.

So, who would you trust to look after your kids! After all, this woman was known to the child's mother, we hear more and more about children who are abused being abused by someone they know, only 1 in 100 child murders is carried out by someone the child doesn't know. so is it more a case of the people you know you need to be cautious of?

Post 2 by Freya (This site is so "educational") on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:13:21

It is just awful isn't it? Hard to believe anyone could do that to a two year old, let alone a female neighbour. Can you trust anyone these days?

Post 3 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:18:33

That's the scary thing though isn't it, because those we trust are usually those closest to us, never would I think any of my close friends capable of hurting my child.

Post 4 by Chels666 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:18:53

I don't think so.

Post 5 by Chels666 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:19:03

I don't think so.

Post 6 by Chels666 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:19:17

I don't think so.

Post 7 by Chels666 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:20:15

aww, crap. lol my bad guys

Post 8 by charisma (Here today, gone tomorrow.) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:42:18

I don't even trust half my family with her, let alone certain friends, only because we've already had some really bad experiences which i won't go in to.
But it's pretty bad when you can't even trust your own family. I do trust my mom though. But I can't leave her with the rest of my family.
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Post 9 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 11:56:36

It goes without saying that we trust our brother... anyone from the family, apart from 2 aunts, who have definately NOT been introduced to the little blokes...Shaun Ally's natural brother..and of course Stevie and Matilda who are daft about Louis and Alasdair..

Post 10 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 20:29:35

i dont have any kids, but i do think that its very hard to know if you can trust someone or not.

Post 11 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Tuesday, 12-Apr-2005 6:57:59

but that's just the thing, it shouldn't be that difficult to trust people. What kind of society is it we live in now where we see everyone, even close family and friends as potential child abusers? When I was a kid, you never heard of people being abused by parents, grandparents, friends of the family ... and now it's everywhere.

Post 12 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Tuesday, 12-Apr-2005 9:13:42

Sugarbaby you made a vital in saying you never heard of abuse it was indeed swept under the carpet, ignored and the perpetrators often escaped scott free..now the victims are encouraged to speak due to personal issues being more widely accepted...

Post 13 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Wednesday, 13-Apr-2005 19:54:30

it's very very sad when we have to become aware of their every action, every move and analyze what it means! More and more times, people are not who they seem. it's real sad!

Post 14 by Flidais (WISEST IS SHE WHO KNOWS THAT SHE DOES NOT KNOW) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 1:13:29

you can't trust anyone anymore, not even your own family

Post 15 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 2:08:29

No i don't believe that. Yes it's true that there are bad people out there, but I believe that good outweighs bad by far. I do not believe that there is a child abuser round every corner just waiting to prey on my child, you can't go through life thinking like that or we would never let our children out of our sight. We've developed too much into this society that says all people are bad and you should trust no one, whereas what we should be doing is bringing up our children to be street wise, to know what is right and wrong, and to know what is, and is not acceptable. Because it is the child that is shielded from the big bad world that is more likely to go out there and become a victim, because he/she has never been brought up to stand up for him/herself.

When I was at school we had a teacher who was, shall we say, a little too familliar with the students, girls you will know the type I mean, the sort that would come up behind you and put his hands over your shoulders ... that sort of thing. And you know the girls he went after? the little shy ones, the ones who wouldn't say anything to anyone. And one day a friend of mine told me he'd been trying to touch her up, so I said to her, well tell him to take his hands off you and slap him if you have to, to which she replied, but I can't do that, he's an adult. Well I can tell you that he never tried it on with me, but if he had, I'd have slapped him without question, because I knew that that kind of behavior just wasn't acceptable, whether he was an adult or not. Suffice to say this particular teacher left very suddenly at the end of one term ... strange that.

Post 16 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 12:17:44

I watched the tail end of a crime prog the other night which showed teenage girls being lured into a car,by a stranger posing as a detective, he later sexually assaulted the girls...I was practically fuming at the stupidity and naievty of these teenagers...how often do they need to be told!.
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Unfortunately their trust has been destroyed and to move off topic for moment, these vulnerable, mentally shattered young women, are more likely to end up in abusive violent relationships
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Post 17 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Sunday, 24-Apr-2005 15:31:11

good point alex. the teens who fall for that kind of thing most likely have a low self-esteem, and want to feel loved.